So much for Schedules

Normally, today would be Fotograph Friday, but life has been a little too chaotic lately for me to get into a routine again. I’m going to work towards it once I settle in for sure. Overall, I can’t complain, i’m living in the city I wanted to live in since I was a child, and my roommates are pretty fantastic so far. For today’s posting, we are going to talk a little bit about schedules, and I use the term schedules loosely, as I truly mean life goal timelines more so than schedules.

The world is a fantastically busy place, we are constantly running, constantly moving, constantly evolving. The world and society tells us that we have a timetable we have to adhere to in order to succeed. It goes something like this… Successful Job you love right out of College, Living on your own by 24/25, in a serious committed relationship by 27, Married by 30, Own a home by 32, Kids by 35, 35 years of successful anniversaries, retirement at 65, and then sometime after that the inevitable end. Honestly, it’s the biggest load of bullshit I’ve ever read, and further, ever had to type up.

THERE IS NO TIMELINE FOR A SUCCESSFUL LIFE! I’ll say it again for those in the back, NO TIMELINE… FOR… A… SUCCESSFUL… LIFE! The notion that you need to hit these milestones, at completely arbitrary age selections is absurd. Lets look at my life, Dropped out of SUNY Oswego at 18, after a semester of schooling, Went to SUNY Dutchess for Two and Half years, Transferred to Marist College for another Two years. Graduated with my Bachelors at 23. Had a job I hated, and that was abusive for 8 months right out of college. Quit that, Worked in a Deli, and at a Golf Course for a year and half. Finally, 6 months from my 25th birthday I wound up in a Job I didn’t hate, and one that I was relatively good at. Did that job for the next five years, while I worked on finishing up my Masters, and at 29, I finished up my Masters, got a Job in Manhattan, and moved out of my parents house for the first time. A full five years, after you are expected to quote on quote move out and live on your own.

Everyone has a path, and your path is no less or more successful than my path. Whether you actually hit the milestones when society tells you that you are supposed to, or you hit them later in life, the point is, you still hit them. You still made it, and you still succeeded in getting there. My advice today, is stop holding yourself to unrealistic standards, stop trying to race to the finish line, the finish line isn’t that great anyway, it’s the one thing that all of share in life, other than birth. Why be in a rush to get it over with. Enjoy every minute you have, take a breath, and realize that no matter what happens, no matter how long it takes, you are still going to get there, and in the end, that’s all that matters.

That’s it for this week, as I said i’ll try to be more conscientious of keeping to a schedule.

Until next time…

Dave

Starting up, Starting Slow…

Welcome back readers! Greetings from Sunnyside and the month October! Sorry it’s taken me so long to get back to this, and I know I’m off schedule at the moment. Starting next week I’ll be back at it on our normally scheduled dates. This week is honestly going to be an update on how the move went, and what the first week living in queens has been like (So far).

The move itself occurred last Saturday, my biggest stress leading up to it that week was just how the hell I was going to get all of the stuff I had packed up in boxes down. I considered a moving company, and a Uhaul, but ultimately my father and brother were willing to use their vehicles to help me move my stuff down. So Friday night we packed everything in, ironically Friday night was the first night the season change plague hit. Despite the blatant fever, and illness I was feeling the next morning. My Mother, Father and Brother, Andrew and I all piled into the cars and we made the drive down. No traffic luckily, and we made it in decent time. The rest went pretty quickly, unloaded the vehicles, put the bed frame together, built the Ikea cabinet. I’d like to give a shout out to my mother, father, and brother for the assistance with not only the move but also the build (and dealing with my insane stress level).

Sunday, I unfortunately spent the day bedridden and with fever, some introduction to Sunnyside. I did get to take advantage of the breaks in the fever to deck out my room a bit. Added some lights to the space, they turned out pretty great honestly, and they accent my room posters perfectly. Tuesday, I got to do a little more exploration of the area, came across the iconic Sunnyside painting they used, as the logo for the new NBC show. Found a couple nice grocery stores, found a cool little hole in the wall bar, a hardware store, and I’ve honestly barely scratched the surface. I’m looking forward to the time over the next week and a half I have off to indulge some photography, and some exploration. There’s a lot of great sites in Sunnyside so far, and i’m excited to see them all

Next week i’ll resume regular posting activities, starting with the weekly update on Tuesday, October 15th.

Until next time,

Dave